It's a new day! What a perfect time to reevaluate our lives and rethink our circumstances! It’s a new day, in a new month, in a new year and the possibilities are endless. What would you like to change and what would you refuse to change, no matter what?
As parents, we often get to a point where we know we want things to be different but we don’t know how to go about it. We realize that the communication in our home is not optimum, the attitudes are less than desirable, the cooperation is lacking and the emotions are high. Especially in the winter, when we are more or less housebound, it is easy to get under each others' skin. We barely make it through the holidays and winter vacations without having our fill of the kids and their complaining, their boundless energy and endless fighting. Consequently, when school finally starts up again, we breathe a sigh of relief as they get back to class and our days get back to “normal”! Does any of this sound familiar?
One thing that should never change is the position of the marital relationship smack dab in the center of the family hub. We know that our marriages are of utmost importance when it comes to our families and the way things run in our homes. When life gets turned upside down and suddenly our kids are running the show, we need to stop and take inventory. It is always obvious to my husband and me when we haven’t been spending enough time as husband and wife, because we are running ragged as mom and dad!
Taking inventory means taking time to set things right. It means understanding that if our relationship is going well, the rest of the home will be in better shape heart-wise too! That’s just a fact of life. So if the inventory points out something that is lacking, we find a way to figure it out. It’s as easy, and as hard, as that.
The new year allows us to take a fresh look at how things are going and to brainstorm about how to make our situations better. There is nothing like the first few days in the new year to sit down as a family and hash things out in an effort to get our home life the way we want it: healthier! Get out the microscope if necessary and take a look at the dynamics that are at work in the home. Have a family meeting to take everyone’s pulse and get down to the nitty-gritty of what has to go, and what is working well. Let everyone air their grievances and get things off their chests, but maintain your authority as Mom and Dad (since you are the ones with experience and wisdom, after all) and then discuss “the plan” for the “new day”! You’ll be amazed at how everyone will rally. Go “Team Family”!