Do we realize, as parents, how much we are molding our children daily to be the persons they are growing up to be? Are we cognizant of the impact our words and actions have on how they see themselves? Do we understand that what we believe they are capable of, is going to play a significant role in what they claim as their life goals and how enthusiastically they reach for them? If we don't help them discover their gifts and talents and encourage them to dream in that direction, we will limit their aspirations. By not speaking truth into their lives and urging them to reach attainable, lofty goals that are theirs to grab hold of as they mature, we may unintentionally thwart their attempts to start life on their own and become successful, happy young adults with purpose.
Are your children musically gifted? Make sure to start sing-alongs on long road trips, get them piano lessons and set them on a path of discipline and responsibility, encourage their singing to their favorite iTunes, commit to attending their concerts, buy them a drum set and put it in the basement (at the same time purchasing a pair of discreet earplugs so you can keep your brain from getting rattled), support them in their musical endeavors at school and applaud loudly- even if they are a tree or rock at the start of their blossoming stage career! Not being there to cheer them on can have an untold, negative impact on very sensitive souls as they are growing.
Are they athletic? Root their team on as they take the field, get involved in coaching and become a role model for good sportsmanship as they watch you and learn to follow by example, buy a cow bell (we always need more cowbell!) and cheer them on from the sidelines (you can skip the short skirt and pompoms, moms, although the pompoms may be less obnoxious than the cowbell). You get the picture. By being there you are planting seeds; letting them know that they are encouraged, loved, and that you are proud of them! They will learn to have confidence and reach for their dreams if they have your support.
Our children need to know, from us, that they are loved no matter what, respected, listened to, included, encouraged, trusted and valued. If we are raising them with criticism, neglect, discouragement, pressure or manipulation- it will not bode well for their future (or our future relationship with them for that matter!) One day at a time, we are planting seeds. And as Ron Hutchcraft puts it: "It is worth it later when the crop comes in!"
Are your children older? Are you afraid you've missed your opportunity? Ron says they're never too young or too old to start. Ask for forgiveness and dedicate yourself to investing in their lives - one seed at a time, one day at a time. It will be SO worth it when you see the harvest down the road! We all reap what we sow in time...
For Ron's very thought-provoking excellent article about the seeds we sow as parents, go to this link: bit.ly/1pfUK6T ... It is an article on his website, Ron Hutchcraft Ministries regarding the harvest we reap from the seeds we sow which he calls "Lifetime Programming"...Ron claims that we have to, as parents, be acutely aware of what we are instilling in our children, because as we raise them and shape them, the things we say and the messages we send will have an impact on the people they become! These are critical and very insightful words of wisdom as we continue through our week! Worth the two minutes it will take for you to find and read it! If you don't already subscribe to Ron's blog, consider doing so.
Have a thoughtful Thursday and here's hoping your weekend is wonderfully blessed with fabulous family time and memories in the making! Take care! Thanks for stopping in and please comment and "like", if you have a minute! Appreciate each and every visit here...