Mothers and fathers, I feel your pain! I’ve been there and done that in raising three of my own, with my husband, but hang on…What, you may ask, qualifies me to stand (well really, I’m sitting down) before you and speak on (actually I am going to write about) parenting? Well, I’m glad you asked!
You see, in November of 2011, my husband and I had the distinct honor and incredibly unique experience of attending a training seminar with John Rosemond and only six other people over three days. How many of you recognize that name or have heard John Rosemond speak? For those of you who don’t know him, John is an internationally renowned child psychologist, speaker and syndicated columnist as well as a parenting authority and author of many books on the subject. We had the rare opportunity of being able to literally pick his brain in a unique setting as he trained us in leadership parenting. It was such a divine appointment! Consequently, after reading, studying and completing a whopping final exam, both my husband and I are now CLPC’s or “Certified Leadership Parenting Coaches.”
We need to clarify that we are not licensed psychologists. There is a tremendous difference and we do not claim to have years of schooling behind our parenting certifications with which to diagnose or prescribe professionally. We speak mainly from training and from our own personal experience as parents. The good news is that I blog to spread this message: there is hope, and God has placed within us all the ability to parent well, if we look to Him and trust our hearts!
So this is what I wish to impress on you in many different ways as I blog and spend time with you: you can do this! Proverbs 3:5-6 says: “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him and He will direct your paths.” Especially when it comes to our marriages and our parenting, God is at the end of our ropes! Matthew 11:28 says: “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened and I will give you rest.” Ah, doesn’t that sound great?
I realize that many of my readers may be parenting as single parents on your own. You need to look to God all the more earnestly as you parent. My blog is still pertinent to you. I know your situation is difficult and different in many ways from the experiences I had. Seek advice or respite from your church or other mothering organizations in your community. There are a great number of resources available out there. Reach out!
I want to offer you some of the amazing teaching that John Rosemond gave us during our special time with him out in San Diego. In addition, I must give credit where credit is due and explain that what you will be reading in these two last days this week and some of next week, comes from what Rosemond taught us over those intimate three days. It is material that is contained in the many book he has authored over the years. We recommend those books highly to anyone seeking wisdom and good counsel. What we are espousing as parenting wisdom comes from John’s philosophies, assertions and beliefs as well as our own experiences, as I stated before.
John stressed that it all comes down to point of view, NOT methods. He claimed that if you have the right point of view, you’ll know how to parent. The key, he said, is a change of heart, NOT head knowledge and he was quick to add that the continuous disagreements between spouses about how to raise their children are one of the biggest causes of stress in a marriage and subsequent marital failure.
So, join me tomorrow and next week as I share some of the important and valuable information that we learned from J.R. His material was so full of common sense and logic, yet we felt like we were hearing it “again” for the first time! Has that ever happened to you? I pray that you will find this material to be informative, insightful and encouraging!
As parents, we all need reminders of things we already know deep down inside, yet are unable to bring to the forefront as issues and challenges in our parenting put us on the hot seat. How many of us can use a booster shot of “aha” moments along the way as we navigate these turbulent waters of parenthood? Who has it nailed down? None of us is perfect at this parenting thing!
See you tomorrow! Thanks as always for visiting my site! Please recommend it to others who you feel may benefit from some no-nonsense, common sense approaches to parenting with leadership and love! Until next time…