Let's face it...we all want our way, whether we want to admit it or not! It doesn't matter how old we are, we're always looking out for number One! Even as adults, we often struggle with not getting our way! For some people, it lasts a lifetime and we never get out of that mode of wondering "what's in it for me?" So is it any surprise that our children will also work tirelessly to make things pan out in their favor?
Hopefully, as parents, we are trying to teach our kids that they won't always get what they want, when they want it. As little ones, they're going to try to work the system and they learn quickly which buttons to push, don't they? They find that if they push long enough, we parents will often cave in out of exhaustion and give in to their desires, just to quiet them! They don't enjoy hearing the word "No!"
When we first start letting our children know that we are no longer going to cater to their every wish, they don't hesitate to let us know their disapproval of such a stance. Especially if they have just been moved out of the center of the universe, this new news doesn't sit well at all. But when all is said and done, it is indeed a step needed to be taken towards maturity; coming to terms with the fact that they won't always get their way in life is an important realization to come to in understanding their place within society.
When I say it will get worse before it gets better, (a phrase from John Rosemond) I mean that the initial push back to the idea of a child's not getting their way is going to be fierce. Until and unless we stick to our guns and stay consistent, they will fight it tooth and nail, expecting us to give in, as usual. They're sure if they push hard enough for long enough, we will eventually cave because we always have before. When we find the strength to hang on and be strong in our decisions, things will get nasty...guaranteed. However, if we stay strong, our children will come to the realization that they are fighting a losing battle and eventually, they will give up!
If we don't give in, they will give up and eventually grow up to be better people! Remember, as parents we always have to look long term.