Mom's Got a Life Too!

Quite honestly, I don't miss those days! You know what I'm talking about. The running to the lessons, the soccer games and the musical rehearsals, the before-school math morning plus and the after-school science review, baseball practices and piano lessons! Sometimes, when I think back on the hectic schedule with three very active boys, I wonder how we managed. We finally hung a huge calendar in our kitchen to keep everything straight.  It was the only way to stay organized with each of our sons having his own colored marker to record his commitments, so we could remember where we had to be when! It wasn't easy and it was plain exhausting.

In all the frantic getting to this and that, I have to admit, I forgot I had a life too! It was all about the guys and what they had going on. Frankly, even if I had remembered, I'm not sure I would have had the energy left to do anything more.  It was all I could do to get dinner on the table each night and drag myself to bed! I often beat my teens to bed on our more active days. In fact, there would be times I'd awaken to use the bathroom and find my teenagers still up and working on homework or chatting with friends on the computer. Oh to be young again! But truth be told, unlike my husband who spent many-an all-nighter in his college days, I was never quite up to it.  I have always valued my sleep more than anything, even eating (which is probably a good thing.) I can count on one hand the times I've gotten up to snack out of the fridge in the wee hours...it just wasn't my thing!

It is so easy, when you are in the thick of parenting, to be totally wrapped up in your kids and put everything on the back burner for yourself...your dreams, your hobbies, your passions, even your career.  Many of us moms do just that! There just aren't enough hours in the day for most of us. We women were sold a bad bill of goods back when we were told we could do everything.  I don't believe that's true! I think we can do many things, but if we try to do everything, we don't do anything well!  And raising my kids is one thing I always wanted to do well!

Furthermore, our kids need to know that we have a life too! We need to be interesting. We need to be strong. We need to have purpose and direction and instill in our children a strong work ethic. As we go through our days, we need to demonstrate leadership and mold them with love and tenderness. They need to come away from the toddler years having experienced our authority and discipline so that they know how to pay attention and listen and obey when they reach kindergarten. They need to believe in their young minds that women have valuable lessons to impart and it behooves them to behave and learn. We women need to help our children realize that we are in their lives to teach them and that our own experiences have taught us important life skills which we want to share!