What Part of "No" Don't You Understand?

The rod of correction imparts wisdom, but a child left to himself disgraces his mother.                                   Proverbs 29:15 He who spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is careful to discipline him.                                          Proverbs 13:24

The shame of it all is that 1) there are no classes on how to be a great parent and 2) you don't have to prove you are qualified to become a parent.  What other job in this whole world accepts just about anyone; whether they want the job or not, whether they had good training and role modeling or not, no matter how old or young they are, what character reveals about them or whether or not they are committed for the long haul?

There were days, and no one is excluded on this count, when it would have been a heck of a lot easier to just throw in the towel and walk.  "They are not listening to me!  I give up!" and there I go, out the door, washing my hands of any responsibility for how they turn out in my absence. It's terrifying enough to see so many parents who do just that.

The bottom line is that we need to toe the line- stand at attention, as it were, and take note.  Sooner or later, we need to take a good, hard look at how our actions and our decisions affect the next generation.  We can't keep pretending that someone else is going to pick up the slack, or accept responsibility for what we haven't done or refuse to do- like disciplining our kids!

When our boys gave me "lip" as youngsters, I often came back with the question, "What part of 'no' don't you understand~ the 'n' or the 'o'?"  In other words, this is a no-brainer and there is no argument here.  Were there times it would have been so much simpler to give up, cave in, or go back on something I firmly stated?  You bet there were!  Did I?  You bet I did!  Alas, I confess I did...